The Ego and the Self

The deepest coaching helps to illuminate the distinction between the ego and the self. We want to be able to recognize our ego so that we can be our true self. We define the ego as the identity of who we think we should be. We define the self as who we actually are beneath layers of ego. Coaching can lead to the uncovering of who we are and the freedom to live as we are.

Coaching helps us see the subtle ways we prove and defend our ego identities. In proving and defending, we lose connection to who we truly are.

The work of coaching is to become aware of the ego. That awareness itself opens the door to choice, authenticity, and greater freedom.

Coaching application. Notice when your client is subtly proving or defending an identity. Invite them to pause and explore what might be more authentic to who they are than that identity. 

Life application. What is one ego identity holding you back from being connected to your true self in your life right now? What is one small step you could take to act less from that identity, and more aligned with the true self? 

Relevant Upbuild content: [Podcast] The Ego vs. the Self (Apple / Spotify)