About the Episode
What is anger? Where does it come from? What can we do about it?
For many people, no matter how destructive anger can be, it’s all too easy to fall prey to its temptation. As a follow-up to The Seduction of Anger podcast, Michael and Rasanath explore the nuances of this emotion from fresh perspectives. They dive into their personal lives and give examples to break down why, even after having worked on their self-awareness for many years, anger still comes up. They explain the physical origins of anger, the different types of anger responses, the deeper emotions that are often underneath anger, and the dangers of living with unresolved anger. Rasanath closes by sharing how we can gain understanding even if we can’t get it from the person we wish we could receive it from.
In This Episode
- Michael Sloyer
- Rasanath Das
Highlights
- 2:10
The Seduction of Anger
- 3:20
Understanding our relationship with the emotion
- 4:10
Why anger exists?
- 6:40
Amygdala Hijack
- 7:50
Anger as an experience of the body
- 10:00
Anger as a result of a violation
- 13:00
The concept of fairness and the Levels of Consciousness
- 20:50
The sadness behind anger
- 25:10
Am I living with unresolved anger?
- 28:00
Three unhealthy ways of dealing with anger
- 31:10
What to do if we need to work on our anger
- 36:40
The need for understanding
Quotes
“Anger is indicative that something has been violated.”
— Rasanath
“Anger is a concentrated experience. It feels like all the force is in one place.”
— Rasanath
“While we might experience anger coming from the mind…it’s actually an experience of the body…”
— Michael
“The anger masks the sadness…the reason is because it makes me feel very vulnerable.”
— Rasanath
“Because we see anger as a bad emotion…asking for support or help…can be extra difficult.”
— Michael
“Once we acknowledge anger, it creates the pause between the stimulus and the response ”
— Rasanath